Life Attractions

Stay Cool: Know the Three Brains of Success

Would you like to stay cool in times of stress? Would you like learn the hidden keys to happiness and success? Then check out some of the work of Dr.Paul Dobransky.  He has written two most interesting books:  The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love,and The Power of Female Friendship.  A third book is forthcoming, The Three Brains of Mr. Right.

At the core of his work is his description of the evolution of the brain. Three brains play a most significant role in our relationships.  The most ancient aspect of the brain is the brainstem, (the reptilian brain). This is the center of gender related instincts and is an area where men and women are profoundly different. The midbrain (the mammalian brain) is the center of our emotions, the core of friendship, and the cortex (the higher brain) is the center of our character.  On this he cites, "Character is Destiny." You win your game when your character has victory in guiding your decisions in the game of life.

Knowing this information gives us, as Dr. Paul says, a "Cool Eye."  This is the observing eye that knows the optimal path for ourselves so we can make wise decisions. 

Dr. Paul  uses a concise scientific system to describe how the brain works in relationships to create higher levels of happiness and success.  His books are fascinating.  He integrates complex concepts in a format that is easy to understand and has many examples and stories to illustrate his points. If you want powerful knowledge to enhance your understanding of relationships, his books are a must.

Creating a Fresh Start in Your Relationships: Nourishing The Seeds

Each year gives us an opportunity to create new visions and new plans, particularly in our
relationships.  Sometimes, our current relationships may bring new stages of growth. Other times, we may recognize that a relationship has served its unique purpose and may need to close. Here are three tips that you might want to consider in facilitating your relationship growth.

1)  Recognize that you and every person you have come to know deserves the very best.  Each person is born to be cherished, loved, and adored. Just like each kind of seed needs its own unique conditions for optimum growth, so does each person need its own unique kinds of nourishment.  Each person has their own unique passions, path, and preferences for successful relating. We need to honor them.

2)  Acknowledge what you have learned from the people who have come into your life.  Each person brings an opportunity for our growth and personal perfection.  When we experience negative emotions, they can be shifted to the positive through forgiveness. When we honor the positive growth, we will bring more of  the positive in our life.  What you focus on expands. For example, a breakup in a relationship may bring a feeling of abandonment.  At the same time, a breakup also brings new freedom, and an opportunity for a new start.  Be sure to acknowledge the positive in the past, because then it can continue to support you.

3)  Make a space for new growth. Just as a seed needs a space for growth, so does a relationship.  We need to clear out the old roots that may interfere with new growth and have a vision for the future.  Nourish your growth by creating an unoccupied visual space. For example, you might want to make a vision board.  Go through magazines and check out what resonates with you. Then place them on a board where you can see it.  What would a healthy relationship look like to you?  How would it feel?  If there are any blocks, release them.  All will help to create a new path to attract positive growth.